Sometimes it can seem hopeless. Hes upset, shes crying. You dont know whats going on or what to say. Depression can be a very random thing. Quick to anger, maudlin, lethargic. It can be a hard situation to deal with. And there you are, stuck in the middle. Looking for a way to get them out of this fog. The best thing to do is to listen. If you think that you need to interject something, then go for it, but most importantly, just listen. Let them tell you what is going on. Let them tell you what they are feeling. They will come to you at this point and they need to be able to feel that you are supportive without putting words into their mouths. It is also important to let them feel like they can trust you. This might be a time when your significant other becomes less secure, more apt to question you about who you are talking to on the phone or what is going on. If you can answer the questions without it being too much of an intrusion into your life, you should. It is not so much that this is a time to put your life on hold, but it is a time to recognize the needs of your significant other. |